Good Enough” is pretty much a meditation on this very subject.
Lori Gottlieb’s seminal book, “Marry Him: The Case for Settling For Mr.
This opinion is particularly espoused by hardcore men’s groups, because it’s an appealing narrative.
They say something to the effect of: “American women are way too picky, way too masculine, way too selfish.
Or that 95% of the country practices premarital sex. But nowhere do things get messier than when discussing the “sexual market value” of men and women. Not based on our feelings about how things should be or what would be right and just and fair. Walsh, but I feel like we’re probably kindred spirits, because she decided to post this long, wonky post with a number of charts and graphs.
Gottlieb discovered that while she was in her early 30’s, passing up on the 7’s and holding out for a 10, by the time she reached her late 30’s, the 10’s were only interested in women in their early 30’s.
But due to biology, I can be that 45-year-old guy who is hooking up with 27-year-old women while 45-year-old women turn into angry spinsters.” These are not my sentiments, but we do see them occasionally expressed in the comments section below, usually by dorky guys without much game who play the “biology” card early and often. Using data from 200,000 people on Ok Cupid, Walsh takes on these men who overestimate their appeal to younger women and gives them a good old-fashioned scientific smackdown, concluding: By this unbiased calculation of actual data, the male and female of the species exhibit the same sexual market value.
The OKCupid chart has good, reliable information for both sexes.So to all of the readers in my core demographic: 35-55, have no fear. I found it interesting that you are not a red pill supporter which is refreshing to a degree.As long as most 22-year-olds are creeped out by 40-year-old guys, there are no shortage of men out there for you. A lot of the ‘manosphere’ is an advocate for the red pill including those commenting on Hooking Up Smart.And why, conversely, poorer households — because benefits rise in line with the size of their family — who have relatively little to gain from limiting their fertility, are growing.But what will be the emotional fall-out for this new generation of donor children who grow up without knowing their fathers?As you may know, I’m really big on statistics, metrics, heuristics, anything data-driven that is going to bring objectivity to something as subjective and emotional as dating. Furthermore, the quality of the men available to her as a 39-year-old who wanted her own biological children was closer to a 5 (in her mind).