One friend brought up a message where a man had told her that because she was a ‘woman of size’, she ‘must suck good ****’. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.
Cracked’s Alli Reed set up ‘the worst online dating profile ever’ and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created.
One of the most notable of these is a reddit user who set up a fake profile and didn’t last two hours.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites: I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
A lot of people, including me, turned to online dating, and Ok Cupid was all the rage.
As I was serious about finding someone, I uploaded a lot of pictures of myself, had a very thorough profile, and received a lot of attention. Eventually, it got to be too much and I closed my profile.
It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). Insulting other women, while looking for a woman, won’t help your chances of finding someone. Don’t be this guy and send this as your first message to a woman.
And if you’re serious about finding someone, make sure you don’t come across as too aggressive. No means no, and you’re not going to be able to ‘convince’ anyone to fall in love with you, and reacting with anger and threats when someone isn’t interested won’t help you. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings.
When going to meet someone in person, it helps to suggest you both bring along a friend.
When someone says online dating, one of the first sites that comes to mind is Ok Cupid.